October 24, 2014

The Future

Lately Bf has been talking about getting married. We've talked about it before, but nothing serious. Mostly about how we didn't want to get married because both of us didn't have happy first marriages. After getting divorced we were both sorta like "I am NEVER doing THAT again!", but it's been almost three years that we've been together and we're seeing that things are so much different with us. Our relationship is nothing like what mine or his marriage was like. Nothing! We're different. Better. Not saying anything bad about my ex, it's just the way it is. I'm sure he feels the same ways about his current relationship. :)

To be honest, I swore I'd never ever get married again, but now I think I may be changing my mind. Todd hasn't convinced me 100% just yet, but he's wining me over. I am now seeing what a good, stable, relationship is like. He says all the time that he's more married now than he ever was before. Melts my heart. :) He also pointed out that if we got married it would solve the whole last name problem I'm dealing with now, I could have his name. I'm in the process of figuring out what I want to do with my last name. I don't want to keep my ex's name, because well, he's my ex and I don't want it. But my maiden name is not even my real father's last name, so why go back to it? So yeah, we could get married and I take his last name. We'll see. :)


October 13, 2014

I Let My Kids Eat Crap.......And They're Just Fine

When I was growing up Twinkies were my favorite snack. Go ahead, click on the link. You know you want to. Told ya so. Oh, and Beaker from the Muppets. I loved them both so much!! Then I grew up, became a mom, then the internet came into my life and OH MY GOD THE FOOD I'M GIVING MY KIDS IS KILLING THEM!! I became obsessed. I researched everything, spent way too  much time at the grocery store reading every label, everything they ate was homemade, I watered down Lex's apple juice, which he hated, but his teeth!!! His teeth will rot if I don't water down his juice!! I was a SAHM so I had oodles of time on my hands and used every bit of it to make sure I wasn't going to poison my kids. Then one day about 3 years ago I was at the grocery store with the kids and Lex asked for some God awful snack that had tons of sugar and crap in it, I flat out refused! He looked at me and said "Mom, relax a little. You've got to let us choose what we want every now and then." and that's when it dawned on me.....I was not going to be able to control them, their lives or their choices forever. So I relaxed a little, let them chose their own snacks, and sometimes I let them chose what they want for dinner, even if it's McDonald's.

And guess what? They are alive and well, and very healthy I might add. Also, neither one of them has had a serious illness in a very long time. Don't get me wrong, they still need to eat healthy foods, but they feel like they have a choice now and they actually eat what is on their plates. Lo is into broccoli right now, which makes me super happy. Lex has always been my good eater, he eats almost everything, but right now he likes veggie burgers. One of my favorites. And blueberries. Oh my god the boy loves blueberries.

So yeah, we eat junk food. Am I worried about the crap that's in the junk food? A little, but I'm also afraid they're going to get hit by a car or kidnapped, that doesn't mean I keep them inside, away from the world. I let them enjoy their childhood, and if that means letting them eat a Twinkie, then gosh darn it all I will let them eat that Twinkie!!!!