July 30, 2013

Kids, Kids, Kids And Ever MOOOOOORE kids........

Dating someone with kids can be tough. I've been with Todd for over a year now and his kids have been coming over one night a week for almost a year. It's challenging, especially because I'm done with the "little kid" phase. You know what I'm talking about.....the nose picking, tantrum throwing, thumb sucking, crying over nothing phase. My kids are waaaaaaaay past that! It's hard establishing new rules to kids who do pretty much whatever they want at their house. Sammy says jump, you say how high. Spencer cries, you coddle him. That shit does not fly here. You say please and thank you, no thumb sucking or using furniture as slides and trampolines. You cry because someone said boo to you, I ask you to calm down and tell me what's wrong and stop the crying. It's been a very long road but I think they are finally realizing that we have new rules here, and you follow those rules or else. Yes, I am that Mom. Before you go and say "OMG you're a monster!! How could you?!" let me just tell you children know how to behave, they are respectful of other's personal space and their belongings. They share nicely and listen when I have something to say......and I don't ever have to spank someone. Good parenting isn't about doing what's easy, it's about doing what's right even if it's hard. I have been parenting for 17 years and it is hard, very hard, not to just give in because it's easier to deal with than to "fight". So yeah, I am strict, but you know what, it works.


July 22, 2013

Moved, Summer, Loss Of A Pet and Learning.....

We have moved into out new home, a huge second floor apartment two towns over from our old place. We've been here for a month and a half, and it's still looks only half finished. Some boxes laying around, my office area is in dire need of a chair and someone to organize it. I've been too busy to do much and honestly, it's too hot to even move on most days, let alone do work around the house. I have to finish painting the kids' room, the office and the hallway, hang pictures, organize everything, figure out what goes in the attic and what stays. ((sigh)) I love our new place though, it just feels good. Todd and I may stay for more than just a year. And plus, we want to try the fireplace out.

In the middle of all this moving, summertime fun and craziness, we lost a pet. Our sweet Molly went to sleep Monday night and never woke up. I knew it was coming, but nothing can prepare you for the death of a pet. She was 13 years old, she had Addison's Disease, liver failure and a heart murmur. We were so lucky to have had her for as long as we did. I miss her so bad. The kids dealt with it very well. We got her ashes back last week and they made a spot for her right next to our cat Mina who passed away 3 years ago. I don't know how I'm going to make it through three more losses. One of the downfalls of having pets, you become too attached. :(

Through all of this craziness I have learned a few things.....

1.) I hate moving

2.) I will only move one more time and that is it!

3.) I need to learn to not worry so much.

4.) I am no good at organizing.

5.) I really need a maid.