My name is Nina, but the little people running around my house call me Mommy. :) I'm a single Mom to 3 insanely cute/funny kids who keep me very busy! I cook, garden, read, drink wine and I'm addicted to Twitter. Oh.....and I swear a lot. Get used to it.
I joined Twitter before Twitter was cool, and that was a loooong time ago. I didn't have many "friends" in the beginning, but the few I did have were all pretty damn funny. Then one day, about 2 years ago, I saw that Moooooog35 was stalking me.....I mean.....following me. So I checked this person out, like I did with all my new stalkers, and I was surprised to have a new real follower, and not a porn bot trying to get me to "be their sex kitten". He may actually be trying to do that still, but so far it hasn't worked, so I think I'm safe. Anyway! My friend Moooooog35, or Rodney, has a new book out. Yes, an actual book! Not porn!! I know!! Amazing, right?! I can assure you it will be awesome! Jenny McCarthy did a review and said "A hysterical book written by a man with no filter, a vasectomy and a name like 'Rod'? I'm all over it!". Yes, she really did say that. So what I think you should do is this....buy it. Buy it now before it's gone! Here are the different links to where you can find it.....
One would think that finding a recipe for an all natural cleaner would be easy, but no, it was not. I have been reading, researching and trying to figure this all out. Not easy for someone with ADD, three kids and a job. I finally found a website that was written just for me!! They wrote it like they were talking to a 5 year old. That is exactly what I need. The website is called Keeper Of The Home. Head over and check out of some their awesome articles. Anyway. I found this place just in the nick of time, too!! Poor Lo seems to becoming more and more allergic to everything I clean with. I'm down to vinegar and water. And now the soaps I have been using on her are irritating her as well. UGH!!! It got so bad that I decided to stop using any and all soaps on her until I found something purely plant based. And I did, finally. I stumbled upon Dr. Bronner's soaps while looking for a Castile soap to add to my new all natural cleaners. I looked through all their soaps and found the perfect one for Lo. Now maybe I can bathe the poor kid and actually get her totally clean. :)
I've got too much on my plate. I'm losing my mind. There. I said it. My man thinks I'm Super Mom, but I am failing, miserably. I am behind on the dishes, laundry and cleaning. Granted, I've been working a lot, but this has never been a problem before. I think I need to adjust to having him living with us. It's kind of throwing me off. I have one extra person in the house who needs/wants/loves spending time with me as much as the others. So, just to clarify, I have 3 dogs, a kitten, 3 kids and now a man and they ALL want to spend time with me or need something from me. :) I have a full house and a full heart. I just need to get a new, newer schedule going. Getting a maid would be much easier, but I don't see that happening any time soon. ;)
There's nothing like someone losing a job, having no health insurance and being broke as Hell to light a fire under one's ass. I love photography, I always have. Now I'm taking it one step further and starting my own business. I'm no professional, but I do have a really good eye and an even better camera. I already have 3 photo shoots lined up, and I hope to get my cards made and passed out within the next few weeks. I made a Facebook page already and I'm currently working on a website. Here's my Facebook page......Threes Photography. I'm very excited about this! I'm hoping to take a class next year to learn more, but for now I'm just doing what I love to do, making people happy. :)
I used to look at Moms that would make their own cleaners, cook like they actually knew what they were doing and think to myself "Ppft! Morons".....but then I became a Mom myself and now I do all those things. Well, I used to. I slacked for a while there, became cheap because I had to, but now it's different. Now I have to again. Lo loves taking bathes and naturally I scrubbed the shit outta that tub with bleach and other various trendy cleaners. Then she got a yeast infection and it was a bad one. We had no insurance, but her pedi was kind enough to tell me what to do without having to bring her in. They usually run their course in a week if you're careful and keep things as natural as possible. So I went back to using apple cider vinegar and water to clean. God I forgot how awesome that stuff works. And my hands are super soft!! Can't beat that! I found a website that lists all the wonderful things apple cider is good for. Here ya go.....enjoy!!
I hate being negative, so I won't be. Let's just say that it's been raining and pouring all over my life lately. Ex lost his job, which means we lost our health insurance, so of course Lo gets a yeast infection and of course my teenager's meds cost $140 dollars and of course I fell down the stairs and can barely move. I am begging the universe to please, please, please keep everyone healthy. PLEASE!! I can deal with my back, I can scrape by and borrow money for the teenager's meds and I can keep Lo's yeast infection from getting worse, but anything else, well we just can't afford that right now. You know, health insurance was something I kind of took for granted. I mean, I was very grateful for it, I knew we were lucky, but I never in a million years thought I'd be without it. Never! Just goes to show you that anything can be taken from you in the blink of an eye. So now, I sit here thanking the universe that my children aren't deathly ill and need constant medical attention, or tons of meds. We're very fortunate that it's minor things, and I hope to keep it that way. :)
Seems like yesterday everything was "normal" and the biggest problem I had was "which one do I get the kids for Christmas? An XBox or a Wii". Now I'm all like...."HOLY SHIT MY EX LOST HIS JOB!!" My main source of income was child support, and now I'm not even sure when and if I'm going to be getting any. I am not working full-time just yet because Lo isn't in school and we couldn't afford preschool or daycare, so we decided that I would stay in the house and live off the child support until she was in kindergarten. Now it looks like we're going to have to figure something out. I know what you're saying right now..."Your ex isn't working, make him watch Lo while you work!". I wish it were that easy. He was in the radio business for 20 years and he was very, very popular. Right now he's trying to figure out where he wants to be, he's meeting with people every other day and he's working on putting together a demo to send out to radio stations and agents. So yeah, he's not just sitting on his ass. We're hoping he isn't out of work for too long.
So for now I'm just trying to keep my hopes up and not worry too much. Worrying never solved a damn thing. I started working on my photography website last week. Very hard to do at home because my computer is trying to die on me. NOT YET, COMPUTER!! NOT! YET! After I get the website looking halfway decent I'm going to make up some cards to pass out. So yeah, anyone need a photographer? Will shoot for food. ;)
When I was pregnant with Lola we had no idea if we were having a girl or a boy up until the day before she was born. She barely moved in the womb, I had no symptoms at all and my stomach was the only thing that got big. Really big! After a very traumatic 12 hours, I gave birth to the sweetest, BIGGEST baby I had ever seen. We only stayed in the hospital for a little over 24 hours because she was soooooo good at nursing and she was obviously very healthy, so they let us leave early. She continued to be the best baby ever. Sleeping through the night from the get-go, nursing was so easy with her, she never cried, never even made a sound, even when she was hungry or needed a change. She was my last baby, and I had hit the jackpot!! Years passed and we struggled with a few issues. She didn't walk till she was 2 1/2 due to a fever that set her back months, constipation was her nightmare and she had a brother who loved to treat her like a doll. She was such a good baby/little girl, that I didn't even mind carrying all of her 25 pounds around till she was able to walk unassisted. I can still see the look of pure happiness on her chubby little face, reaching up to me with her chubby little arms and clinging on as tight as she could. It was blissful. Just look at her little face!!!
She was always this happy. Always! So don't ask me what happened, because the little 4 year old living in my house is not the same little girl. She's mean, she's bossy and just down right rude sometimes. She has her good days and she has her bad days. When she's having a good day she's sweet and funny and so flippin' cut I could squeeze her to death! But when she's having a bad day, forget it!! It's horrible. She will tell complete strangers to "Stop looking at me! I don't like people!!' O.O I have learned over this past year that if shes having a bad day the best way to handle her is with lots and lots of love. Lots of love. It can be very difficult at times, either because I'm already having a bad day, or I'm tired or I just don't feel like dealing with her mood swings, but I reach deep down into my patience reserve and I do it. Let me share some of the various moods of my Lo........
This is Thinking Lo....
This is my Cheese Lo, when she lets me take her picture and actually smiles.......
Trouble Lo.....she's thinking of new trouble
Pissed off Lo. I said no to her here. Lo does not like the word No.
And my Sweet Lo....
Her moods vary. This week she's been Pissed off Lo. Nothing I say is right and she hates everything. ((sigh)) Luckily she's so damn cute. I swear it's a defensive mechanism
NO! Not a baby! AHHHH! We have a new kitten! Well, Lex has a new kitten. She's his "baby girl, love bug, Flufferton". Yes, he named her Fluffy. Of course!! Can you tell he's smitten? The boy is so in love with this cat that she's the first thing he runs to when he gets home from school. And she's just great!! Such a good kitten, too. She's sweet, cuddly and isn't afraid of the kids. Just perfect.......
And yes, she was hugging Lex in that last picture. The cuteness almost killed me. :) Everyone is so happy that we have a new kitten, but all I keep thinking about is how many mice she's going to kill for me. ;)
Seriously, how long? She can check herself into the hospital without my consent. Her doctors don't have to tell me a thing about what's going on in her medical life. She can go behind my back and get pregnancy tests and STD tests and I can't say a thing about it. Well, I could, but legally I don't have the right to anymore. BUT, I have to deal with all her drama, attitude and mood swings. I'm not gonna lie, she has gotten a lot better since she started taking her meds regularly, but still, she's a teenager. A teenager with mental health issues. A teenager that thinks she's grown, but can't even do her own laundry or cook herself a meal without almost setting the house on fire. So yeah, she's a handful, to say the least. As far as getting her help goes, we're doing our best. Not easy when our insurance only covers certain doctors in certain towns, and those doctors aren't accepting new patients. Oh, and get this......she's still considered a child, so she has to see a pediatric psychiatrist. It's frustrating, it really is. Some days I just want to scream. Other days I actually find myself thinking that she should live with her grandmother if she hates me so damn much. Not that I would ever let that happen, but when you feel so helpless and beaten down by your own child, then you tend to think negative thoughts. Yesterday, I wanted to clean the porch so we could eat out there again, and the whole time out there I cried. I just let it all out. Weeks of stress and trouble with my teenager just flooded out of me, and it felt good. I've decided to do that more often, cry it out. I tend to hold things in, stand strong and don't let anything get me down. Sometimes though, I think it's best to let it out. I sure felt better afterwards. :)
I'm changing my name to Ms. Exhausted Casey A. Between work, the house, the kids, the pets, hospital visits, more work, laundry and breathing, I have no time at all to myself. I am only able to update right now because Lo is sick and I'm sitting here watching her sleep peacefully and hoping she wakes up feeling better. School hasn't even started yet and we're already battling nasty bugs. Wonderful. It seems that I just can't catch a break lately. One thing goes right, five other things go wrong. Found out last week that someone stole my identity and used it to run up a $1,500 heating bill and a $600 electric bill. Luckily my ex is a nice guy and kept everything in his name until I get things figured out. What a flippin' mess. My new man and I have been talking about him moving in within the next month or so. That is wonderful and very exciting. Again, one good thing happens and then I got dumped on again. My teenager had an episode two weeks ago and Todd and I had to drive her to the ER where she checked herself into the hospital. Now that she's 16 I'm pretty much only needed to sign papers and pay the co pays. No one would tell me anything at all. Nothing! Todd and I sat in the coldest room ever just waiting for them to find her a bed in the psych ward. It was horrible. She was the one who finally told me that she stopped taking her meds. ((sigh)) If she hadn't of told me I never would have known! So, FYI, if your kid is 16 the doctors don't have to tell you shit! Anyway, I went to visit her every day she was there until she checked herself out. I think being on the adult ward freaked her out. She's been home and has been taking her meds regularly. Let's hope it stays that way.
So yeah, life is hectic. Wonderful, but hectic. My teenager is on the mend, school starts soon, I still love my job, my ex and I are getting along nicely, and my new man is becoming a huge part of our lives. Life is good.
Ever since this whole divorce thing started I've noticed that I've been slacking in a few areas. What I feed my children is one of them. I used to have plenty of time to make a healthy meal with all organic ingredients, I could spend hours in the kitchen backing bread, making sweets and trying new things. Now, I'm lucky if I have time to make anything other than noodles and peas. And as far as buying mostly organic...yeah, that's not happening. Money is just too, too tight right now. Child support kicks in on the first, so I'll be able to do my finances and see what I'm looking at as far as how much money I'll be able to spend on groceries. Right now I'm not getting very much money to work with, so I've had to really watch what I spend. I'm hoping I'll have a little more to spend on fresh produce and mostly organic things the kids eat all the time, like yogurt, milk, bread, peanut butter, noodles and such. It's not easy, but I'm trying to get better at it. I'm just so sick of them eating the same thing all the time and I want to be able to provide them with better options. No more excuses! I'm doing this.
Now that school is out, what do I do with these kids??? My teenager is easy.....she's going to work and will most likely be out with friends all the time. Lex is such a sleepy head lately, I doubt I'll be able to get him up and going any time before 10am. Lola, well Lola doesn't like to move much. I've been wracking my brain thinking of things to do this Summer. Here's what I have so far.......
Beach.....and lots of it
Summer studying on Tuesdays and Wednesdays since I work those days anyways
The Children's Museum in Boston
Going to different lakes
Spending a weekend at a hotel somewhere (Lex loves that)
Lots of movie nights
Catch some fireflies :)
Lots of playdates
That's all I have so far. Lex has lots of Summer school work to do, so our Tuesdays and Wednesdays are full. I'm thinking any rainy days will be movie days. I'd like to do a kids cooking day with them, I bet they'd love that. My teenager will be babysitting the kids from 8am-1pm on Tuesdays and Fridays, which will give her some spending money. I'm hoping to get her in to help out at a shelter near where I work. The place is so full and the woman works herself to the bone keeping the place clean and taking care of the animals. It'll be good for Raven. That's all I can think of right now. I'm not good with this planning crap. So yeah, feel free to chime in and give me some ideas!!
Tomorrow is "D" Day and I should be sleeping, but instead I thought I'd blog, get it all out so to speak. When some people ask me about the divorce and I answer honestly, they're surprised. Surprised that I have already moved on and I am actually looking forward to the divorce. What most people don't know, and I haven't even shared here, is that my soon to be ex husband was a cheater. Not just once, but many times over. When someone does that to you after promising you forever, then it is unforgivable. I stayed so long for a few reason, but one of the reasons being that I refused to "give up". "Till death do us part" and all that jazz. Then, last year, I realized that I would one day die, and I did not want to die thinking that I could have been with someone who was faithful, who did love me more than life itself, and also, I didn't want my children growing up seeing it. So I made the choice to move on. It wasn't easy, but life is never easy, is it? So tomorrow we make it final, and I am happy about it. I won't apologize to anyone for being happy to no longer be married to someone who obviously didn't love me enough to be faithful. It saddens me that it didn't work out, but we will be ok. Me, my ex and the kids. We've found a way to be a family apart, and everyone is happy. My ex has moved on and is dating someone, and so am I. We're both happy. I am not just happy, I'm actually falling in love. Scary, yet beautiful. He was a friend first, and I think that's why it was so easy. He's also so good with my kids. They love him already. I can't blame them. :)
So even though tomorrow should be a difficult/sad day, it won't be. It will be the end of one part of my life and the beginning of another. I am excited. :)
A certain little boy turned 6 on Saturday. A certain special little boy. One who stole my heart the moment he was born. Right before my eyes I've watched him grow into the sweetest little boy I've ever met. He's my little scientist who loves to make things, he's a time traveler who insist on taking his baby sister back to 1985 with him. He can't walk by me without saying "Hi, Mommy. I love you". He loves our alone time when I read his favorite book to him. We're almost finished and he's already planning our trip to the bookstore to get the next one. We had family over Saturday for cake and ice cream and it was a good day. I still can't believe how fast these 6 years have flown by........
Where do I begin? My kid is now 16. 16, people!!! That's a HUGE milestone!!! I feel like more of a survivor than a Mom sometimes though. Raising this kid has been tough, but so rewarding. She's taught me patience, patience, acceptance and more patience. We only had a small party for her at home with friends and family. She went to a sleepover at her friend's house after the party and I spent most of the night cleaning. Life has pretty much been the same since, except for the fact that she's now 16 years old and growing up faster than I ever thought. Looking for jobs, planning her future, talking about car dates (ohmygawdohmygawdohmygawd!!!!) and focusing on staying on the Honor Roll. WOOT!! She's determined to "prove me wrong and get into a good college. See what I just did? Reverse psychology, people. She has also started talking to a boy that lives the next town over. He has a job. And a car. I am now rethinking that "You have to be 16 for car dates" rule. Should've made it 25. It's only a matter of time before she asks me if she can go on that dreaded first date. Alone. In a car with a 17 year old boy. We all know what 17 year old boys are thinking. All. The. Time. I am now going to end this post and drive to the liquor store for more wine. I'm going to need it.
Since I've been single people keep asking me when I am going to start dating and if I plan on joining one of the many online dating sites. My answer is this.......There is NO way in Hell I will EVER join one of those sites. Ever! Why? Because they're all a scam!! Nothing but creepers on those things. Ok, maybe that's a bit harsh. I'm sure there are a few men on there who are actually looking for "Mrs. Right", but for the most part it's a meat market. Now I'm the kind of person who likes to know what she's talking about so I decided to make a profile and sneak around Match.com to see what's going on. And I was RIGHT! Creepers!! Some of the screen names alone are just horrible. 1Handsomemichael ?? Really, guy? Full of yourself much? This is part of an actual About Me section...
ABOUT HIM & WHO HE'S LOOKING FOR
My life has been full of some pretty hilarious stories. A few conversation starters for our first date: ask me about the time...
An English mafia boss took me to an abandoned warehouse.
I almost drowned in 3-feet of water.
A fortune-teller from New Orleans nicknamed me the "King of Swords".
How I apparently lack the social skills to manage a wood chip factory.
That is not attractive. Not one bit. I think the last paragraph says it all. And then there's this guy....'
ABOUT HIM & WHO HE'S LOOKING FOR
I once ate a guinea pig. I'm not sure why you'd want to know anything else about me, but there's a 200-character minimum, so here goes.
There was more, but I was too stunned to read on. I just....I don't even know. And his picture was horrifying. God, I am so shallow. Now, this guy's headline actually made me LOL.....
my shirt is on... and its not ed hardy... be honest, have you accepted a date from a dude with no shirt on in his profile pic?
HAH!! Now that was funny. Ladies, please, do not accept dates from guys who do not have a shirt on in their profile picture. They're tools.
I contemplated putting a picture up with some gibberish as my profile just to see what would happen, but I don't know if I'm that brave. Yet. ;) So for now I will just stay single, never go on a date, because apparently every single man on the planet is on these stupid dating sites instead of at the grocery store waiting to hit on me in the produce isle. Life is so unfair.
I really am. There is no excuse for me to not be blogging. I find myself just sitting down and doing noting if I have a minute. I'm lazy. And the look of my blog is making me want to puke. WTF was I thinking with all this cuteness? It's adorable, I know!! But it just is not me anymore. I've changed so much in the past 9 months. In a good way. I'm able to be myself and not have to really care what anyone thinks about me. So I thought I'd post a few new facts about myself....
I'm kinda rude
I have more patience than I thought I had
My favorite color is white wine
I'm well rested
I tend to lie
I am a Southern girl through and through and can't believe I'm so rude
I let my ex's OCD do the cleaning every Tuesday when I go to work
Did I mention that I'm single?
So there ya go. I could go on and on because there is so much new about me but I have some work that I should be doing. Yes, I am at work. Add "Screws off at work just to tweet and blog" to the list. ;)