July 8, 2011

A New Beginning.......With An Old Story

It's been a while since I've posted anything, and for good reason. Things in my life have been turned upside down and have taken a turn for the better. Over a month ago my husband and I have decided to get a divorce. I blame The Rapture. While I am not a religious person and in no way believed a thing that loony was saying about the end of the world and all, it did open my eyes to one day I am going to die and I wanted to die happy. And I was not happy. I was content, but far from happy. That's when it clicked.....I was not in love with my husband and I was fairly certain he wasn't in love with me either, so I had a talk with him and voilĂ ! Here we are. He has practically moved out and is already moving on with his life because well, he needs that. I have my kids, the house and the dogs to keep me company. My littles have no idea what's going on, my teenager, on the other hand, is having a very hard time with it. Therapy is helping, very slowly, but it is helping. She has a great therapist who she's been seeing for years mainly because of her alopecia.  I'm hoping she comes to term with it soon and is able to move on. I'll keep you updated on that one.

As far as I'm concerned, I'm doing great. I felt trapped for so long and now that we are practically divorced I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I am a bit worried about my future. How am I going to support myself and my kids? I've spent the past 10 years being a wife and what? I never had a desire to do or be anything else. I went to school in Germany to be a dental assistant, but I'd have to start from scratch here. Not that I really want to do that, but I would just to get on my feet. My friend, who is also my lawyer, keeps telling me she needs an office slave. LOL! The biggest problem is this.....Lo is still home all day. I guess I could put her in preschool a year early, but I'm not comfortable with that. Kevin and I have always agreed that the kids should stay home with me until they're 4 and then only half weeks in preschool, not full day. Lex is going to be in kindergarten from 8:30 to 3! That's a long day!! I work 2-3 days a week now in the afternoons and Kevin comes and stays with the kids, but he can only do afternoons and not everyday. So now what? I will take a year to get on my feet, take a course and then start working full-time next year when Lo is in school. I just hope things go smoothly. Wish me luck! :)

3 thoughts:

Moooooog35 said...

Wow, Nina. I'm sorry/not sorry.

Literally a year ago, I wrote a blog post about my wife and I getting a divorce (my post was written July 6th).

I cannot tell you how much I hurt thinking of the disappointment of my kids - but it gets better as time goes on. I moved out in June 2010, hunkered in a 1-bedroom apartment for about a year (which sucked ass when my kids came over 3-4 times a week) but just bought a house and moved in 2 weeks ago.

Like I adjust.

Also, let me know when you're up for a rebound guy. I have some free time, great pecs and amazing stamina.


Good luck.

The Animated Woman. said...

Big changes huh? I found I was missing you and stopped by to see what you were up to. You seem to have embraced this as a fresh start and I find your attitude and strength inspiring.

You're a mover and a shaker Nina. I'm sure that whichever road you decide to take you'll do great things. It won't always be easy but as long as you listen to your heart you'll find your way.


Carlie said...

Wow Nina! Life throws wild punches, eh? Am rooting for you as you try to sort life and and figure out your new path. Sending you lots of hope, peace as you wait for answers and try to find balance. I wish I had clever answers. Much love to you as you work it all out. Friend.